A client recently asked me, “How do I find myself?”
Honestly, this question always unsettles me because before we search for ourselves, we should
ask:
What exactly are we trying to find?
Is it purpose?
Is it peace?
Is it love?
Is it validation?
Is it a career direction?
For most people, life purpose is equivalent to a dream career. I have been in my ‘dream
profession’ for six years now and trust me, even that doesn’t excite or fulfil you forever.
We say “find yourself” as if there is one neat, universal path.
There isn’t. If you strip everything down, every spiritual tradition says the same thing:
You are the soul.
The body changes, identities change, relationships change, the soul doesn’t.
As Krishna said, the soul simply “changes clothes.”
So the search is never for a new identity.
It’s for the essence you have forgotten.
That quiet, spacious “I AM” beneath everything else.
Why No One Can Give You One Path
Because what I’m holding on to is not what you’re holding on to.

Your obstacles, your attachments, your fears, your conditioning, your past lives- all are different
from mine. The root might be the same but the experience is different.
That’s why:

• one person finds peace in meditation,
• another in breathwork
• some find it in ‘selfless service’
• another in scriptures
• another in naam jaap,
• some don’t find it in this lifetime at all- and that’s okay.
• some find in it in parenthood
• and, some find in nature
  This journey is not mass-produced.
  The Real Meaning of “Finding Yourself”
  We aren’t born lost.
  When we come into this world, we are pure:
  open, trusting, curious, unguarded.
  We are like a clean mirror
  Like dust slowly covers a mirror, life begins layering us:
  conditioning, comparison, fear, shame, jealousy, ego, limiting beliefs, guilt, shame.
  And so “finding yourself” isn’t about searching outward- it’s about removing what never
  belonged to you.
  It is a peeling away, not a discovery.
  When all the false layers fall, what remains is not a new version of you.
  It is the original one.
  The soul itself.

Sat-Chit-Ananda…existence, consciousness, bliss.
So How Do You Start This Journey?
You start by cleaning the dust.

• Question your conditioning
• Let go of your limiting beliefs
• Heal your stored emotions
• Practice detachment, gently
• Sit with yourself
• Meditate in whichever way your soul responds to
• Stop becoming who the world wants you to be
• Start remembering who you already are
  When all the noise quiets down, the soul reveals itself.
  The Truth? You Don’t Find Yourself…You Uncover Yourself
  And that uncovering is a work of many lifetimes.
  And that’s okay.
  Because the soul is patient.
  The Divine Mother is patient.
  Existence is patient.
  The journey is yours.
  The pace is yours.
  The soul already knows the way.

And lastly, remember:

Spirituality is not escapism, and it won’t make you abandon your job, your life, or your
responsibilities.
In the next blog, we’ll go deeper into how people misuse spirituality as an escape…and how to
walk the path without losing balance.